Gospel Parenting Are you interested in seeing your children come to know Christ as their Savior early in life? If so, you’ll want to demonstrate the Gospel as a parent. This may seem like a tall order, but it’s doable. The parent/child relationship is the pattern that God chose for our relationship with Him. A good model of this relationship in the home will bring a child closer to understanding God and salvation. First, as you hold your child close, speaking tender words of comfort, you lay the foundation for him to accept the truth that God knows him and loves him personally. Not only should you demonstrate it but you should tell the child this truth, “Sweetheart, God knows you and loves you, in fact, He knows you even better than I do, and loves you even more than I do.” The second way to demonstrate the gospel is with consequences. Each time you patiently remind your child, “that was wrong, Honey, and these are the consequences,” you’re demonstrating that there’s a standard by which all behavior can be judged as right or wrong. That standard of course is God’s Word and His character. Loving, biblical discipline paves the way for the truths that “all have sinned” and “the wages of sin is death.” Without the awareness of personal sin and its punishment, a child will never see his need for a Savior. Third, demonstrate unconditional love. You can ask your child after disciplining him, “Do Mom & Dad love you more when you’re good or when you’re bad?” Over time, he should learn to answer, “you love me the same.” When we love our children unconditionally, we’re demonstrating the truth of God’s unconditional love for us, described in Romans 5:8 “While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” “But” you might say, “I’m not that perfect.” Tell your children that. Point out that God’s love is greater, His wisdom and discipline are perfect. When, not if, you mess up and discipline in anger or you’re too harsh or not consistent, tell them that you want to do better, because that’s not how God our Father is with us. Fourth, as parents, we can demonstrate how a relationship with God works when we sin. When your child disobeys you or lies to you and you talk to her about it, talk about how it affects your relationship. Talk about how the sin makes it harder to trust that she is going to do right or tell the truth next time. When trust is broken, it’s hard to have a good relationship. Confessing that the sin was wrong, and asking for forgiveness helps your relationship to be better. In fact, unconfessed sin hardens the sinner’s heart and makes it more likely we will continue in the same behavior, so it hurts us too, not just the relationships around us. Demonstrating that yourself is even better. When you must ask for forgiveness, talk about how your offensive behavior hurt the relationship, how asking for forgiveness made it better, and also makes it less likely you’ll do the same thing again. Then it becomes very easy to explain that when we sin against God, He doesn’t throw us out of the family, but the sin does hurt our relationship. Confessing our sin and asking for forgiveness activates the truth in 1 John 1:9 where if we confess our sin, God not only forgives us, but He cleanses us from unrighteousness so the relationship is restored AND we sin less. None of us can be perfect, but we’re thankful for the gospel, which shows us how to deal with our sin in a healthy way. Healthy for us, healthy for others, healthy for our relationship with God. Teaching the gospel in your home, both verbally and more importantly, with demonstration, will most likely cause your children to accept Christ at an early age and understand how a relationship works with God, their heavenly father. Walking in good relationship with God can become a way of life before they leave your home, equipping them in the very best way possible for life ahead.